Etiquette of the First Night
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Invocations recited by the Groom on his wedding night
On the first night of marriage, when in seclusion with the wife, hold the forelocks (hair of the forehead) of her head and recite the following call:
اللهم إني أسألك خيرها وخير ما جبلت عليه ، وأعوذ بك من شرها وشر ما جبلت عليه
Allaahumma innii as-aluka khaira haa wa khairaa maa jabaltahaa ‘Alayh wa a’UUzhu bika min sharri haa wa sharri maa jabaltahaa ‘Alayh
‘O That Which Remains, I ask You for the goodness within her and the goodness that you have made her inclined towards, and I take refuge with You from the evil within her and the evil that you have made her inclined towards.’
(Abu Dawood, ibn Maajah)
Invocation on intimacy between husband and wife
When Intention of having relation with wife Recite:
بسم الله، اللهم جنبنا الشيطان وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا
bismillaah Allaahumma jannibnash shayTaana wa jannibish shayTaana maa razaqtanaa
“By the name of That Which Remains. O That Which Remains save us from the Distant Enterer and keep the Distant Enterer away from what you grant us”.
The child that is born after the recitation of this call will never be harmed by the Distant Enterer. (Bukhari, Muslim)
Note:
This call must be recited for if That Which Remains’ name is not taken, the Distant Enteter’s sperm enters with the man’s
(As in marginal notes of Hisnul Hasin)
Invocation on Ejaculation
ﺍﻟﻠﻬﻢ ﻻ ﺗﺠﻊﻝ ﻟﻠﺸﻴﻄﺎﻥ ﻓﻴﻤﺎ ﺭﺯﻗﺘﻨﻲ ﻧﺼﻴﺒﺎ
Allaahumma laa taj’Al lish shayTaani feemaa razaqtanii naSeebaa
O That Which Remains let there be no share for the Distant Enterer in what livelihood you grant us
(Hisnul Hasin)
It is reported that if a person does not recite these calls, the Distant Enterer participates with him in the act of coitus and derives pleasure from his wife.
Not reciting the call is also a cause for rebellious and disobedient progeny as is observe in our times.
King Abdul-Haq Dehlawi (Merciful be That Which Remains over him) states in this regard:
“If a call like this is not made at the time of coitus and only the sexual urge is fulfilled like the animals;
the child that is born out of such a union will not be saved from the evil influence of the Distant Enterer.
This is one of the main reasons that the morals of the present generation are not good.”
[Rifaatul Muslimeen]
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